3 Secrets to Developing Superior People Skills

1. If What You Are Doing Is Not Working Change Your Approach

When I was in school I always had a small group of close friends but I never found it easy meeting new people. By the time I reluctantly entered the work force it was clear that my communication skills were limiting my progress.

The fact that I was as capable or even more capable than my peers meant little when I was unable to create a favorable impression.

I needed to become a lot more confident, dynamic and charming.

And I did. I changed my approach once I learned how to by studying advanced communication skills.

What would have happened if I did not change my approach? Year after year I would have become more and more frustrated and bitter.

I could easily have adopted the world view that nothing ever works out for me and before long I would have spent most of my time with other negative people.

Things do not change until you change. Doing nothing is not an option in case you actually think it is. The trend will continue and reach its natural conclusion until you change the trend.

Decide to change and look for answers. The clock is ticking. And the time to begin is now.

2. Learn From People Who Get Results

It is easy to get advice when you have a problem. Everyone has an opinion! However unless that person has proven expertise in that area be careful about following his advice.

On the other hand when you want to become better at something all you really need to do is to open your eyes. Who do you know who excels at that activity? Who has already solved that problem in their own life?

Recently I was walking around town with a friend who invests in property. Now a lot of people own their own home and even a second home. This man is different. He owns several million dollars worth of residential property and a hotel.

Maybe he would be a good person to talk to if you want to learn how to make money in property!

As we walked around I asked him lots and lots of questions. He is very patient with me! I was amazed how much I could learn in minutes just by asking the right questions of someone with the right answers.

3. Invest In Your Future

I have always been fascinated at how quickly my life can change once I learn and use new distinctions. Think about it. The only thing stopping you from succeeding in any area of life is a lack of knowledge. And if you commit to learning you can bridge that gap.

Let us say your goal is to be the CEO of the largest company in your town or city.

What is stopping you?

Knowledge and skills. And these can be learned. You can acquire the knowledge and mental skills, the people skills and the ability to handle pressure.

Obviously you will choose a goal that will make you happy and avoid occupations that you are not suited to. You will naturally favor goals that build on your interests and aptitudes.

How are you going to quickly acquire the skills you need to move ahead in your life? The fastest way is to invest money in courses and books that reveal the strategies you need.

Consider how much money you spend each year to service your car. The cost of oil changes, new tires and other repairs. Not to mention insurance.

Do you spend this much on servicing and upgrading your skills? And No this is not the responsibility of your employer. Your company only spends on you to achieve the corporate goals not your goals.

The first time I attended a huge three day personal development seminar it was with several thousand people. And I learned a lot in the car park! I noticed at 3 A.M. when the first day ended that the car park was full of very expensive luxury cars. Porsche, Rolls Royce, Jaguar, Bentley and Ferrari.

It was then that I understood what separates the most successful people from everyone else. A lifetime commitment to learning and a willingness to invest in their own development.

Do you want to step up and join those at the top of your field? It is easier than you think because most people prefer to do nothing and hope that things will somehow get better.

Take action and invest today in a bright new future.

About The Author

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm

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