How to Have an Affair - Beware!

People decide to have an affair for many reasons. They could have become disappointed with their marriage expectations which may have been too high to fulfil or they may simply want to carry on having an open relationship as they have in their past.

It can be relatively easy to have an affair if you are out working all day as you can make excuses for leaving for work early and returning home late. Even at the office your paths may meet several times a day and at lunchtime you are free to go where you please with whom you please.

It can also be relatively easy to have an affair if you are self-employed and work from home as this gives you even more flexibility. If you need to visit clients homes then this gives you every opportunity to have an affair. Likewise if you attend regular meetings and conferences, then that time could easily be used to have an affair. A popular affair is one with the secretary. This is very common on business trips especially when you have your evenings free to do as you please. Once wined and dined with colleagues it is easy to retire to ones room to then have an affair. Most affairs of this nature can become quite involved and last for a considerable time.

Some men think that it is macho to have an affair and to them it is second nature. They sometimes set themselves a goal to achieve. Some like to have a different girl on their arm every night others are more discreet and just meet at weekends.

Women too have affairs and may often use the excuse for shopping to escape to have an affair.

An affair can be dangerous and needs to be carefully thought through as you will get noticed in pubs, clubs, restaurants and the like especially if you met somewhere locally. Another dangerous liaison is at parties when you think that everyone may be pre-occupied chatting and dancing. You may possibly meet someone new and wish to see them in private. Often this can lead to the bedroom which, although may have seemed to have been a good idea at the time, can have a disastrous effect as you could be missed by others at the party and then found quite by accident leaving a bedroom with someone. Gossip travels fast at a social event and you need to be well aware of who may talk and who may listen.

Affairs are usually short lived and burn out soon after the flame has been lit. Many people who have affairs return to their original partner and expect to be forgiven for straying. This may be acceptable for some but there would always be an element of doubt as to when the situation may arise again. Should you be contemplating having an affair then think twice as you could end up losing everything, marriage, family, even friends. An affair is a very dangerous game and should never be taken too lightly, for fun or even to get back at somebody. It nay not just be your life you destroy but also that of the person to whom you have the affair. Once an affair has taken place you may never be trusted again and never be able to return to your previous relationship. Affairs are very costly both from a personal point of view and a financial one.

Have an affair - beware- there may be no one there! So take good care.

Jenny Clair is the editor of Marriage-Divorce-Separation.com an article based web site exploring the human side of marriage breakdowns, divorce and separation situations.

http://www.marriage-divorce-separation.com

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