Hes So Not Into You

These are words women don't want to hear when they're in a relationship. Unfortunately these words are fact more than fiction. Of course we don't want to believe that the man we've spent a year or more with just doesn't give a damn about us. It's a hard pill to swallow.

Are there signs to know and catch? Maybe and maybe not, but we as women fail to listen and hear the warning signs that are trying to beat our brains into action. We want to continue with the man because we believe he's going to change and treat us like the queens we should be treasured for.

Here are some of the warning signs in a relationship that just doesn't work:

1. He doesn't call you often.

2. He doesn't take you anywhere anymore.

3. He never has any money.

4. He's never at home when you call.

5. His cell phone is off.

6. His demeanor is different.

7. He never invites you over to his house.

8. He doesn't even ask to come over to your house.

9. You only have his cell phone number.

10. He only calls, but talks for only five minutes.

11. He goes out of town a lot.

12. You can't drop over to his house without calling.

13. You can't depend on him for anything.

14. When you need him he's never available.

15. You never hear the three loving words, 'I love you'.

16. He's just not that affectionate.

17. You rarely have sex.

18. He has a female friend.

19. When you get in a bind or a sticky situation he's never around to bail you out.

20. He treats you like dirt.

21. He doesn't communicate.

22. Marriage isn't in his vocabulary.

23. He's cold and nonchalant.

24. You go weeks without seeing or talking to him.

25. He abuses you verbally.

26. He abuses you physically.

27. He doesn't like your children.

28. He's seeing other women.

29. He's probably married or attached.

30. He's just into you for a booty call.

31. He isn't romantic enough.

I could go on and on, but most of these are the red light of a bad relationship gone into madness. Your man just isn't into you. These are the facts, and the warning signs that this relationship just wasn't working for me, and it most certainly wasn't working for him, so we both need to shift on.

It's very difficult in a relationship when you're giving ninety-five percent and he's only giving five percent. Women are more emotional than men, and they wear their feelings on their sleeves. They tend to fall so hopelessly in love with a man; it's difficult to heed any warning signs. Of course the signs are staring you in the face constantly, but love is blind in most cases. Women tend to stay with men for various reasons when they know the relationship is doomed from the start. Women believe that they can change a man, or he'd love them so much he'd change for them. This is the main mistake women make in relationships, and it's the downfall. A man will never change his strips especially when he's much older and still destined for the old-school syndrome.

I know a woman who married a man because he said that he'd stop smoking if she married him. They got married, and the spouse is still smoking. She's very miserable and about to end her relationship because she actually thought he was so in love with her that he was going to give up the one thing he craved when he met her. This woman was demented in the brain for deluding herself into thinking her man was going to make this change for her. Men can't change, they won't change, and they will never change for anyone, especially a woman. Please!

Love and marriage doesn't come with guarantees. You love this person, and you want to spend the duration of your life with them, faults and all. We're only humans, and two personalities trying to come together in this tarnished world is very difficult to comprehend. We believe that our love will be the contributing factor to happily ever after.

I've been in relationships and they were all very disappointing to me. I had one that almost rated a happily ever after, but my insecurities ruined that relationship and eventually the man moved on. I think everyone of us has a great love in our lives, and we're blessed to still be with him, or we're mourning the breakup. It's like a death when you give your all into a relationship and it ends, or divorce is on the horizon. It can be the most devastating experience of your life.

We also have to remember that we're going to play with a lot of losers until that winner is right around the corner. Relationships are hard, difficult, exhausting, emotional, time-consuming, painful, and stressful, but all women want to be in love and loved because it's better than being alone.

This is why we know our man is so not into us, but we don't care because we'll take him for as long as we can have him. I thought about this scenario, but when you get into your sensible mode, what do you really have? If you're into a relationship that meets all thirty-one of these negative traits described above, then open your eyes, and see the forest for the trees.

Women, you truly have a dog for a man, and no confidence or self-esteem for yourself. If you're spending most of your time alone, then what is wrong with this picture? Your man is so not into you and those are the facts. Women wake up and smell the coffee or the detergent. You're alone anyway because your man is so not into you. I bet you he's too busy playing games with the ten million other women that are available. It's okay because my man is so not into me, and I'm so not into him either. I just love myself to much, and when you come right down to the needy facts, I'm truly so into me because I'm worth a bag of chips and then some.

My name is Carol Ann Culbert Johnson. Please visit my website at: http://www.freewebs.com/jcarolann Sign the guest book and explore the site. Also purchase my debut book of confession, romantic short stories, I CONFESS at http://www.publishamerica.com

---

Dating: How & Where To Meet Single, Alluring, Sexy & Beautiful Women Of Your Dreams

Are you a lonely man?When was the last time you... Read More

The Dating Game

With all the websites on the Internet that offer a... Read More

Dating ? What to Do on Your First Date

Dating at first is fun but as it goes on... Read More

Funnel Your Way to Love

I call it "The Funnel." And it's the best way... Read More

Best Places to go on a Date

Does the waiter know how you like your steak, and... Read More

Mens Guide To Online Dating Success. Secret Seduction Tips Revealed!

Looking To Meet Women? Craving Female Company?Well, you've come to... Read More

Love Eluding You? Let Go and It May Find You

How many times have you heard someone say it was... Read More

Unlock Your Inner Diva for Dating Success

There's something sexy about a powerful, take-charge woman who knows... Read More

Dating in a Modern World

As the UK Online Dating market keeps on growing day... Read More

90% of Your Dating Issues Solved!

A friend of mine recently exclaimed, "Dating is so complicated!"... Read More

Online Dating Safety

Online dating safety warning signs.Online dating is a brilliant and... Read More

Bachelor Dream

Step aside Hugh Hefner. Elvis King is back in the... Read More

Reading People: Body Language Briefing

Body language is the meaning behind the words or the... Read More

Saying What You Really Want To Say

Have you ever been talking to someone you are interested... Read More

Healing the Midlife Love Crisis

All I wanted was to fall in love and live... Read More

Defining a Relationship

How does one know when a relationship is really a... Read More

Online Dating For Dummies

Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in... Read More

Love Discrimination

Why is it people, especially the media, thinks that looking... Read More

What Appeals To Women About Badboys

What is it about the attraction of Bad Boys?A lot... Read More

Dating Mistakes

Are you dating or in a serious relationship? Did you... Read More

You Dont Have To Be A Genius To Write A Love Poem

Love poems are a wonderfully romantic gesture and can often... Read More

Love Could Be An Errand Away

You have signed up on several large dating sites and... Read More

So, How Big is Your Penis?

As a result of dating for decades and chatting with... Read More

Black Professional, Educated, And Self-Reliant Woman - Why Am I Still Single?

Today there are many single women over the age of... Read More

Dating Advice for Men: Why Some Women Like Em Younger

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Madonna and Guy Ritchie. Your... Read More

No More Desperation Dating

When you think about what you find attractive in a... Read More

Online Dating Makes Searching For a Partner Fun

Some have said that online dating is an impersonal relationship.... Read More

Internet Dating - Introduction

So you're single. And you don't want to be single... Read More

Dating Options for Christian Singles

As a Christian, you understand that to visit bars, nightclubs,... Read More

Love Notes: What DoYou Mean? Secrets of Clear Communication

Recently a man I had met through match.com sent me... Read More

Dating a Non Christian

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what... Read More

Look Your Best With Some First Date Grooming Tips

So the big night is quickly approaching, your first big... Read More

Why Not Average Joe: Exploring Melanas Choice

Admit it. You snickered, rolled your eyes and laughed out... Read More