Dating Tool: Confidence 101

I'm over it. "There's plenty of fish in the sea," they say. Well, apparently I have been using the wrong bait. Nobody said dating would be easy, but Hollywood sure likes to paint it that way, doesn't it? "There's someone for everyone," they say. Maybe that ought to translate to, "There's someone for everyone?.as long as you're a muscled pretty boy with washboard abs, and at least 6 feet tall."

So how does one get by this unsettling dating stipulation? Are we actually to believe that love will find us when we're not looking? I think people who say that are normally in happy relationships when they say it. Can we "buy" outer beauty from an online store to match our own inner beauty? Somebody is buying pheromones and weight-loss pills and liposuction and facial restructuring. Hell, now people even get plastic surgery to make them look like a celebrity. Huh??? And you know what? I bet these things work for people. As long as it can build the confidence up in someone, it also strengthens the attraction. So how can we build up that confidence without spending tons of money to people who know how the game works? Sounds like a question for the shrink.

I suppose its all part of why I started up a matchmaking service with a friend of mine in Los Angeles. It can be so frustrating out there. And being "alone" can only make your work day more stressful, it seems. So if I had someone to do the dirty work for me?.get me the dating connections, counsel me on why I might not be getting that second date, maybe my frustration level would decrease. So I went into the business?.pretty much as a means to find out what can be done to find the perfect one.

OK, so nobody's perfect, but at least maybe I can find a decent one who happens to have similar ethics as myself. Oh, and a killer sense of humour is mandatory. But looking around, nobody was going to help me, a fact that made me feel even more alone! So I had to do it myself. Such is life, right? Part of it might be that I feel a need to always be in control of my own destiny. As long as I am actively pursuing something, I am a success. Yea, that sounds right! So I joined forced with my cohort and we started Let's Meet Here. Now I'm gonna' find the one, right?

Wrong!

As it seems unethical to date my own clients (damn, I knew I'd run into some roadblock!), I figured?.at least pass on any information I can gather to those who need it (and baby, we all need it!). Granted, I am learning about all this stuff now. It seems every date and every relationship is completely unique. There is no list of do's and don'ts that applies. But I do know that going into the business has allowed me an increase in confidence that is apparent in me without my even having to think about it. I am starting to really believe that success comes from the active pursuit of a goal, whether or not the goal is achieved. The process in itself builds character?and character is attractive.

So while I learn as I go, I will show as I go too. It is absolutely within my own power to be a success. And the pursuit of achievements is an achievement of its own. However, I have also learned that a little is never enough. And to settle after one's success is no success at all. Maybe now I'm fishing with the right bait!

About The Author

Kerr S. Lordygan a professional matchmaker and business advisor, is a Relationship Director for Let's Meet Here LLC. His efforts on behalf of relationship-minded people include numerous positive testimonials, including praise from a recently married couple first introduced through Kerr's guidance. An accomplished musician and formally trained playwright, Kerr is a veteran stage producer and featured artist at venues in Japan and Scotland. A graduate of the University of Southern California, Kerr is also a regularly published theater critic for several entertainment magazines. He lives in Los Angeles. www.lets-meet-here.com

He can be contacted at KSLordygan@lets-meet-here.com

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